{"id":3745,"date":"2025-02-08T20:48:00","date_gmt":"2025-02-08T20:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.naturalbliss.nl\/english\/?p=3745"},"modified":"2025-02-10T08:50:44","modified_gmt":"2025-02-10T08:50:44","slug":"intimacy-full-of-flow","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.naturalbliss.nl\/english\/blog\/2025\/02\/08\/intimacy-full-of-flow\/","title":{"rendered":"Intimacy full of flow"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tIn my work I touch people or I guide couples to touch each other in new ways.
What I notice is that we haven\u2019t really learned about the possibilities of touch.
\nOften, we just \u201cdo what we do\u201d and aren\u2019t really conscious of exactly what we are doing. What impact does each touch have?
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\nIn the beginning of a relationship, this still works because we are full of passion for each other. But later in the relationship, this does not work anymore.
\nThe “autopilot” kicks in, and we often repeat the same things.

\n\nBeing consciously present with what you are doing is a first step toward a fulfilling intimate life.
\nGetting to know each other in new ways and learning to touch each other in new ways.\nWhat if I do this to you, what if I touch you like this, do you like it?
\nBeing curious (and continuing to stay curious) towards eachother.

\n\nThis goes hand in hand with learning to express what we feel, what we like, what our desires are, what we don\u2019t like so much.
\nIn feeling and expressing this, we create real connection.
\nConnection to yourself, connection to each other.
\nHere I don\u2019t mean ever-lasting conversations, just talk no action.
\n\nPerhaps this is the most important ingredient for a flowing intimate life.
\nBeing present with whatever arises in the moment and then let it move into another moment.
\nNot staying stuck in a (porn) fantasy in your head, or a trigger that comes up, but feeling the sensations in your body, the scary emotions, and staying in contact with each other about them.
\nThis can be an euphoric experience, an orgasm, but it\u2019s also raw; uncertainty, fear of abandonment, wanting to do it right, not daring to speak up, a whole range of feelings arises when you start to connect.\n

\nTrue connection leads to feeling more. And that can be a bit scary at times.\n
\nThe reward is more playfulness and fun, deepening the love for each other.
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